The Victim MentalityThis may sound strange, but sometimes it's comfortable to be a victim. Some people grow used to feeling sorry for themselves, throwing pity parties, and inviting others to join in: "You poor thing! You really have it rough!" We all enjoy a little pity once in a while.
Being a victim also comes in handy when we don't feel like changing. We might blame our troubled childhood, our alcoholic spouse, our nasty boss, our painful illness. After all, who can expect us to move ahead in life? Don't we have every right to wallow in self-pity?
Jesus shatters the victim mentality. We're tempted to think of ourselves as helpless lambs being dragged to the slaughter. But faith in Jesus makes us "more than conquerors through him who loved us." Nothing, no matter how painful or powerful, can separate us from God's love in Christ Jesus. That makes us victorious--no matter what.
One of my greatest joys as a pastor has been seeing God's love overcome the victim mentality. People paralyzed by pain and self-pity discover how much God loves them. They find that Christ's riches are greater than their problems, that a victory celebration is more fun than a pity party. They stop using their troubles as an excuse, and they overcome them. Through God's love, they become more than conquerors. So can you.